Episode 9 Father's Day Special

In this episode I am honoring my handsome father, Curtis to celebrate Father's Day  and I am discussing with him what it was like to raise an ably different child. Come Roll with Us!

Transcript

(Instrumental Music)

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Queensss On A Roll

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Yeahh Heyyy Queens On A Roll

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Ooooo who Queens On A Roll

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Powerful Queens On A Roll

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Queensssss

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(Instrumental Music & Singing) Oooo who Queensss

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(Instrumental Music, Singing & Bell Chiming) Powerful Queens

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Hey, everyone, and welcome back to

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Queens on A Roll podcast.

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This is Latavia here, and since it is Father's

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Day this week coming up, I decided to do

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a Father's Day episode and invite my dad, Curtis.

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(Clapping sound)

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Hey, Latavia. Hey, dad.

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How you feeling today? I'm good.

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Can't complain. All right.

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So you're ready to roll? Yes.

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All right, let's roll.

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(Instrumental Music)

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So, Dan, I just wanted to ask a few questions.

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How did you feel when you found

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out that I was ably different.

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I didn't feel no difference.

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You achieved so much.

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So I was always proud. Yeah.

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But I know initially it had to be like a shock.

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It wasn't a shock initially.

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Yes, it was.

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So how did you feel initially? I don't know.

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I can't explain how you feel. You know

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It's been so long ago.

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I know so long ago.

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Are you trying to say I'm old?

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Getting up there not that old.

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I'm not that old.

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I'm only 29.

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But how did you find out?

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I found out when you was a baby.

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When you was born premature.

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So mom told you or the hospital told you?

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I was there.

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Ahhh You were there.

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So what was that like? I was proud.

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you were a pretty little baby so

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It made me proud. Okay. Okay

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I still got the good looks so

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I don't know if I get that from mommy or dad.

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Of course your dad You know that.

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So, dad, what was it like raising me?

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Because I know growing up, my mouth was flipped.

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Tay you've been amazing.

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You achieved so much.

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So you've really been amazing.

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Made me proud. Awww Thank you, dad.

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But you know did you ever feel like,

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why did my daughter not walk?

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Yeah, that comes in every parent mind. You know Yeah Yes

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Would I be able to walk later on?

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I thought you would.

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Okay, so you struggle with that at first, yeah.

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And what did you feel on the inside?

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Did you feel like, was it my

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fault you just grow to accept it. You do? Yes.

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So when did you reach the level of acceptance?

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When I seen you accomplishing so much.

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So what was your like initial perception

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of a person with a disability?

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Like, what did you think?

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You just figured that it could never happen

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to you, you know, you know when it hits home like that?

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You kind of shock.

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And what did you think?

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Did you think, like, oh, you know she might

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not be able to achieve so much.

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People will make fun of her.

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Were you worried about all of that?

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Nah, I wasn't worried about no one making fun of you, but

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I didn't think you would do it as good as you did. Oh

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(Instrumental Music)

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(Fun Fact Sound Effect)

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And today's fun fact is that my dad actually named me.

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So my mom wanted to name me Octavia.

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O-C-T-A-V-I-A.

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But my dad was like, no, you need to name her Latavia

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What kind of name is Octavia?

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So my dad named me Latavia.

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L-A-T-A-V-I-A.

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So thanks, dad, for the name.

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(Delayed beat sound effect)

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And so now that I'm an adult how do you feel?

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Like, do you think, oh, is she gonna be able to

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live on her own or is she going to always need her

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mom, or am I going to need to be there?

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No, you're very smart, so I think you could do it. You think I do it

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So what advice would you give me now as an older

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Tavia, what dad wisdom would you give me? Just stay strong and you know accomplish life you know

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If me and your moms not here, then

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you have to keep moving forward.

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You're right. You're right

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What did you think when I first

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approached you about this whole podcast thing?

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I was like, dad, come on, I

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wanna do this Father's Day special.

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I know at first you were

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like, I don't like social media.

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I don't like all this stuff.

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But when do you think at first? I said Tavia's at it again

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She Don't stop.

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I'm always doing something.

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I definitely always have my hands in something.

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(Instrumental Music)

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(Story time sound effect)

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That one time I think I was like four or

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five and we were on the telethon and Mommy didn't

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want to go on at the time because she's like,

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I don't wanna be on camera.

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So you went on with me and I was

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like, oh, okay, we're going on there together.

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And he started asking you questions, and

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then he directed some questions towards me,

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and I was like, sh, sh, I can talk, I can talk.

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Don't talk for me.

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Did you think at that point, like, my daughter got

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a smart mouth and she just embarrassed me on TV?

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(Laughing) Always, (Laughing) Always

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You've always been very outspoken.

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Yeah, always, always, always, outspoken and always spoke my mind.

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Didn't think nothing of it, but I'm pretty sure

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you were like, I wanna kick this child's butt

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cuz she embarrassed me on national television no we actually laughed because you were so young.

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we didn't think you was gonna do that.

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but you did it.

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Yupp, I sure did.

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I remember I did like it was yesterday.

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That's one of my most fond memories.

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I think I was three at the

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time, and I was always a chatterbox Yes.

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(Stair Climbing Sound)

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I loved our Daddy daughter dates.

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That was the best for me. You know what?

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Dad doing those Daddy daughter dates.

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You really taught me how a

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man is supposed to treat you.

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So I thank you for that.

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I really do thank you for that, because if you

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definitely didn't do those Daddy daughter dates, who knows?

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I remember one time, I think it was Valentine's Day.

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You came with the roses and the chocolates.

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You had told mom to dress me all up, and we

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went out to eat, to dinner and watch a movie.

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That really taught me how a man is

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supposed to treat you on a date.

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So thank you again for that because I don't

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think I would be so strict on men today. You know like nope

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My Daddy taught me how you're supposed to treat me.

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So you need to come correct.

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I always say that all the time.

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Where's my flowers?

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Where's my candy?

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You trying to date me.

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I need something first.

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So Definitely.

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You definitely instilled that in me.

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Was that, like, your major, major thing?

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Like, I don't want her to be dating everybody out here.

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I want her to be selective.

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Mhhhmmm

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Even now with dating, dad's always still like,

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I don't really want you going out with

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no boys, but I know you're grown.

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He's still like, you know a little cagey about it.

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Does it still bother you? Yes, of course.

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It's always going to bother me. Why?

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I'm grown now unless I see he's a really nice guy.

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Oh, so you gotta vet him.

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mhhmmm

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Don't put him through the ringer

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You have to.

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The guys are gonna be scared. Don't do that.

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You got to see where he's coming from.

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Oh, please don't do that. Please don't do that.

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They're gonna be afraid of you anyway because

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of how big and muscular you are.

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So please don't do that.

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I don't want them to be big and afraid, but

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to date my daughter, you gotta be special.

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Awww Tell them what the criteria is, dad.

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(Public Service announcement sound effect)

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He gotta be well educated, just like

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you, good looking and a decent guy.

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Let's not forget, he either got

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to be in school or working.

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Oh, guys, did you hear that out there?

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That's all the credentials my dad is looking for.

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So you better come correct.

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You better come correct.

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I hope you guys heard that, because

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that's what my dad is looking for.

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So be prepared.

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I think he's going to ask you 21 questions.

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21 questions?

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Nah that's not enough.

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Gotta be more questions than that.

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You think so?

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Yes. Oh, boy.

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I'm in for it.

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I am definitely in for it.

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(Instrumental Music)

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What was it like growing up for you? For me? Yeah.

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Working hard, taking care of my children,

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and just staying out of trouble.

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Even though you're proud of me right now.

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What is one thing you think I need to work on? Nothing.

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Tay You do it all. You think

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You're always into something.

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Yupp just keep going and keep going.

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You've always been a hard worker.

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Made sure you out there working.

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So I got that work ethic and drive from you.

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And you know what else dad

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I you got a really kind heart.

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I got that from you, too. Yes cuz

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My dad will give you the shirt off of his back.

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Even if it's his last thing, he's gonna to

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give you the shirt off of his back.

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So I got that definite kind heart from you.

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That was definitely one thing I got from you.

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I got multiple things from you.

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I got the looks because when you guys see us

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together, everybody always says, I look like mommy, but as

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soon as they see pictures of us, dad. Oh, forget it.

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You look like your father.

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That's it.

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Spitting image of your father.

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That's what everybody always said.

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So I definitely have a lot of

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your qualities, and they're the good ones.

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They're definitely the good ones.

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I take after my dad.

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I'm just blessed to be here.

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Have you you know

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And guess what, guys, I'm the

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only girl, so he spoils me.

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How did it feel when mommy told

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you I'm having a girl felt great.

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My first daughter, first daughter and only daughter.

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So it has to feel good.

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They say that a daughter is the dad's first love.

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So I was your first love.

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You fell in love with me instantly.

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Yes, that's true for me too.

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Like, I am a Daddy's girl, Daddy's girl.

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I always want to be around my dad,

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always want to hang out with my dad.

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And I think as I've gotten

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older, I appreciate our relationship.

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I definitely do appreciate it.

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My dad is not really a talker guys, but I'm able to

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go to my dad and talk to my dad about anything.

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He may not want to hear about the

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boy stuff, but he'll be like, oh, God.

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Tay, I'mma listen.

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What is it?

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My advice is you don't have time for boys. Yeah.

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I always said when you're late thirtys, you can date.

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What? Yes.

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Well, news flash.

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I'm sorry, but I'm dating now

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(Instrumental Music)

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So dad, I always finish my shows

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with a quote of the episode.

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What profound knowledge can you

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drop on my listeners today?

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Follow Tay, she's a very smart person support

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her yupp because she's gonna be famous one

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day and I hope all y'all stand by her.

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Ohhhh So he gave his daughter a shout out.

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So dad, I'm going to give you a shout out.

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Thank you for being the best

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dad that you could possibly be.

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Thank you for always being there for me.

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I really appreciate it and I just

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hope that our relationship continues to grow.

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I love you tremendously.

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There's nothing in this world that

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I wouldn't do for you.

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So thank you again for coming on and joining me.

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And happy father's day to all the

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amazing fathers out there, including mine.

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And happy father's day to all the mothers

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out there doing the mother and father role. Enjoy.

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So everyone, that's all we have for you today, guys.

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Please subscribe and share and follow.

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And if you enjoyed this episode, let me and

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my dad know if there's anything else you would

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like for me to talk about, to hear about,

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please send an email to queensonaroll.podcast@gmail.com again.

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That is queensonaroll.podcast@gmail.com and

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we are rolling out.

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Say bye, dad. Goodbye.

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Love you too, Tay Love you.

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And everyone, please excuse the

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audio quality in today's episode.

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My dad is feeling a little bit under the weather.

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He has a sore throat, but that's just one

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of the many qualities I love about my dad

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because even though he isn't feeling well today, he

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still wanted to support his daughter.

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So that is just one of the many things love about him.

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Thank you, dad.

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